If someone mocks you for your involvement, for your taste, for the fact that you get super excited about meaningless stuff, for your overjoyed enthusiasm, for laughing out loud at stupid jokes, then this person is bad for you.
You know sometimes there are people in your life that make it harder for you to get any kind of motivation.They’re negative people of course, that act this way under the guise of looking super laid back and uninterested. To be honest, they just sound uneducated.
The thing is though, when you are not sure about your own choices, and dont believe enough in your voice, you tend to fall for that. You join their ranks like the actual movie villains they are, and you too stop giving a crap altogether.
You wanna seem as detached and careless, caring is for lame-os that organize charity events and help out at animal shelters. These things seem like a good idea, extra kudos for people that wanna help out. But your friend over there is laughing his ass off and talking about pseudo charity and you end up getting sucked in too, like yeah totally, how lame.
Dont do that to yourself.
First of all, dont let ANYONE, ever, tell you what is lame and what is not. You think, you choose, no one else gets to do it for you. Second of all, if you think you’re gonna lose popularity points by stating your opinions, these people you’re hanging out with are not really your friends.
If someone mocks you for your involvement, for your taste, for the fact that you get super excited about meaningless stuff, for your overjoyed enthusiasm, for laughing out loud at stupid jokes, then this person is bad for you. Like real bad. They’re going to suck all your good energy, drain you from your positive happy thoughts, and eventually take away any semblance of your humanity. Being cynical and fake deep is cool for like two seconds, then it just gets sad.
Caring is good, it means you are alive, have hopes and desires, have plans, have dreams. But sometimes, bad things happen to you, unexpected turn of events, that leave a sour taste in your mouth, and make you feel like all you did was for nothing. Whether it was a disastrous relationship, a rejection letter you got from your dream school, a failed year, not getting called back after endless job interviews, overall things you cared immensely for and didn’t turn out the way you envisioned. These types of set backs make you reconsider the whole point of giving your all, of committing yourself, of getting excited over any kind of prospect.
You let yourself go, start to slack off, and if in that precise moment you hang out with the wrong kind of people, you’re done for. It’s not that feeling down is a bad thing, quite the opposite. It’s as normal as it gets. Life isn’t a linear path. It’s rocky, and you feel up and down, and sometimes you feel all over the place, and other times you just don’t know what to feel. And it’s OKAY.
What isn’t though, is those people throwing negative comments your way « that’ll show you next time you wanna get involved », « anyway everything ends up crashing down ». Uhm, excuse you? Friends are supposed to cheer each other up, not push you deeper down in your misery. Of course I care. I am an alive human being not a soulless shell.
I did fall for this once, and started to pretend not to care, about anything ever. If you weren’t living in a huge condo in new york, going to columbia and hanging out at your favorite coffee shop like in 6 white complainers (touché unbreakable kimmy schmidt), nothing mattered.
And that is such a bad outlook to have, because in doing that, you’re not doing anything to change your actual condition. People with a lot less than you have, have reached further than you’d ever dream of. Just because they didn’t limit themselves, and didn’t think it was lame to admit you cared.
Blast that stupid song in your car, get excited because they’re having sales at your favorite store, talk about that tv show you like, and tell every idiot that wanna bring you down to get a life.